How to Stay Positive When Everything's Against You

Let’s face it, life is difficult. If you can accept that simple fact you can begin to make it less painful…not less difficult unfortunately.

Here are some things that might help you to start thinking positively and accomplish what you want in life.

  1. Life can be difficult and cruel and unfair, but every time you’re feeling sorry for yourself consider how fortunate you really are. Every day above ground really is a good day. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and take one step forward, followed by another and another and another.
  2. Remember that some things can pass with time. There will be a tomorrow. There will be a next week. There will be a next month and perhaps by then, things will have changed for the better.
  3. The most common reason why people think their lives are a mess is that they aren’t living their own lives. Look deeply into whether you are acting to please others – to please family, friends or society. Realise that you need to get to know who you are and what your needs are, and make the choices to follow your own path.
  4. What are the things you like about yourself? Are you intelligent? Are you funny? Are you generous? Are you sincere? Try focusing on the positive things in your life. You may be having a positive influence on others even when you think you’re useless.
  5. When you find yourself in a bad mood, you could think of the negative things in your life, even if they’re not true. Look for your good things in your life and think about the ones that you know love you. Realise that nobody’s life is easy and that there will always be ups and downs and moments of low self esteem. Don’t automatically assume that nobody cares. Everyone matters to someone.
  6. Appreciate what you see. Look in the mirror. Find something beautiful about yourself. Find the things that appeal to you. When you can’t change something, change your attitude towards it!
  7. What can you do to make your life better? What do you really want to do? How do you want to feel? Make a few reachable goals and work towards them. The first step is usually the hardest; getting help or admitting you need it.
  8. What motivates you? What gives you the energy to go on everyday? Music? Love? Family? A good run? Give yourself a boost by focusing on what is important to you personally.
  9. Whenever you feel like the future is ‘hopeless’ think about happy memories. It will help make you feel better and remind you that in the future, there will be good things too. Think about all the good things you’ve experienced, felt, and achieved, and consider how many more great things could be waiting around the corner. There will be many great moments in your life so don’t let a few obstacles get in the way.
  10. It’s okay to step back once in awhile and just enjoy the moment. Even in tough situations it’s important to smile and laugh here and there. Don’t restrict yourself from doing things you love because they’re “not important” or because you think you’ll be criticised for doing them. Let yourself enjoy life even if you’re not at the best place you could be. You only live once so make the most of it.
  11. If you feel persistently sad, unmotivated, anxious, hopeless or fearful, seek professional help. Remember there is always somebody there who wants to help you. You are valuable!